This morning just when I opened the browser and read the psychology website I left yesterday, I noticed beautiful lines about parents-children relationship.
Children need to know their feelings matter. It makes them feel real, noticed, seen, heard and visible.
Links. Those words are true.
When I was little, I was never concerned about my own feelings. I might feel sad, scared, or disappointed, but they were all hidden deep inside my heart. None taught me about those feelings or even bothered to tell that they were real. All I knew was there’s a blank space in me that I’ve carried away everywhere, since I was little ‘til I grew up.
Now that I’m a mother myself I’ve learned that children have feelings that they and everyone around them should acknowledge. The words that I’ve quoted from the psychology site say exactly what I mean.
Once children know that their feelings matter, they will become better humans. They will learn that their feelings are appreciated by others and they should also appreciate others feelings. When they’re sad or happy they shouldn’t bury those feelings away but learn to express them in the right way. Furthermore, they will also learn to know if what they feel is right or wrong, and the reasons behind it.
If that doesn’t happen, children will feel an emptiness within them. A wide range of feelings, both negative and positive, that they didn’t express will continue to be carried into adulthood. In time, those unanswered questions will find their own place at the end of the day, on faces of depressed adults.