Life in our time when we were little was full of pressure. Dad worked every day to support his family of wife and four children. He oftentimes got stressed and pushed Mom with inappropriate attitudes and words.
On the other hand, Mom tried to escape her burdens at home with abundance activities outside. She left us to work and got together with her friends. She did them not only for money but more as a deliverance from her own stress.
We kids were mostly all by our selves because both Mom and Dad were busy with their own worlds.
In fact, all kids wish to have their parents involved in their lives. They need them even in the the simplest matter like sharing every day’s story at school.
Kids also need their parents presence when they get older. They need them to address their lack of understanding about puberty, first menstruation cycle, and feeling of like to the opposite sex. They also need your approvals and restrictions in certain situations, such as getting new friends.
That’s why you should never go away from your kids no matter how hard a parenting task is.
I know there are people who feel they’re not good enough to be a mother or father, and they decide to leave their children behind to grow up alone. It’s a very wrong thing to do, because kids will still be grateful for their parents presence.
What’s more, you can always be honest to your kids of the things you can or can’t do and ask for apologize. Kids will understand that no body’s perfect and they will forgive and accept you. That’s how they love you even more because they know they’re not perfect themselves and believe that you will also love and accept them the way you are.
But when you’re not there by their sides and choose to be absentee parents, they will not know how to love you. They will feel lack of love from you and unable to love you back.